Category: Food, eating habits, eating disorders, eating preferences, choices, culture, traditions, travels, family

1. In general, you can either have a good relationship with food or a challenging one. A positive or a good relationship with food means that you allow yourself to enjoy any food you love, regardless of whether it is labelled as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ based on its nutritional value or calorie content. Conversely, a challenging relationship with food involves restrictions, such as stressing over certain food items you’re uncomfortable with, tracking your calorie intake obsessively, ignoring your hunger cues, overeating, and experiencing feelings of guilt or shame related to your eating habits.

2.Before recognising your relationship with food, it is important to understand that humans have a deeper relationship with food rather than a simple fuel-providing medium. Unlike animals, human preferences for food depend on a variety of factors like cultural, traditional, regional, socialisation, pleasure, comfort, simplicity, childhood memories, and nutritional content. The food preferences and choices are transient and may change many times during a lifetime. Once an individual understands how the food is grown, sourced, and reaches the table, he/she learn to appreciate and develop a healthy relationship with the food.

3. A good relationship with food can be having a comfort level, not stressing out, eating in moderation, being open about all types of food and not allowing it to control your life. The signs of having a good relationship with food can be:

• You are enjoying while eating.

• You stop eating once you feel full and satiated.

• You respect your hunger cues.

• You don’t overeat but instead eat in moderation.

• You don’t count your calories while eating and are obsessed with the numbers on the weighing scale.

• You are open to all kinds of food as per your preferences.

• You don’t allow others to opine about your food choices.

• You understand that your food choices do not define you as a person.

• You love to eat food that you enjoy the most.

4. Having a bad or, rather, difficult relationship with food can be stressful. Some of the signs of a bad/ difficult relationship with food can be:

• You have a restricted and limiting approach towards food.

• You don’t respect natural hunger cues.

• You have a history of crash dieting, trying to follow all fad diet food trends.

• You are very concerned and stressed out about the list of foods that you can or cannot eat.

• You have a feeling of guilt or shame for eating.

• You feel stressed to eat in the social circuit as other people may notice you about your food choices.

• You either starve yourself or overeat. Either way, you are not comfortable and happy.

5. Learning to develop a good relationship with food is an ongoing process. It takes a lot of patience, time and self-empathy. Allowing yourself to welcome small changes, day by day, not being judgmental, learning to enjoy and taking pleasure while eating. The food choices are not just part of routine practices, but deep-rooted in our genes, following a certain culture, which is not wrong. A good and healthy relationship with food means being open to trying new food, seeing food beyond the caloric scale, and not always judging your value as a person through your food choices. Allowing yourself food freedom.

6. Eating when hungry: It is important to understand your body’s natural signals of hunger rather than eating unnecessarily. Our body has a natural ability to metabolise the food that has been eaten, starting the process of absorption of necessary nutrients, cleaning the dead cells and releasing the roughage. In other words, the body has a natural cleaning process called autophagy. Normally, in the daytime, the body takes around a 5-6 hour gap before you experience hunger again. It is important to avoid certain habits which can prove to be harmful to health and damage our relationship with food in the long run:

• Eating while stressing out about something as a distraction has become common.

•Binging while watching TV or watching a film.

• Gorging and overeating while attending a party or buffet.

• Eating while attending a meeting or taking a flight.

• Eating or having beverages throughout the day becomes very normal in today’s time, as food is available all the time and everywhere.

7. Stress and eating behaviour: Stress can be any kind of stimulus that is perceived by the individual as stressful. Several studies have shown that stress can result in irregular eating behavior, altered eating preferences, and even alter the perception of pleasure from food. Research has shown that 40-70% of people suffering from stress can result in overeating, which can prove to be a calming process, irrespective of their physiological hunger. Whereas some 60-30% people can result in a reduction of food intake or develop a repulsion towards food. In today’s time, some people are so concerned about caloric counting and weighing scales that they develop a restricted approach towards food, where eating becomes a difficult task. Some people follow a crash diet, keeping up the dieting trends; eating becomes a burden rather than a physiological need.

8. Mindfulness: When it comes to developing a good relationship with food, there are no right or wrong answers. Food is not just a source of fuel, but your culture, habit, individual taste, memories, joy, and health, on which you plan your meals and eating preferences. If you are cooking yourself, learn to ritualise the process, enjoying every step from selecting the food ingredients, cleaning, cutting, sizzling, bubbling, until the food finally comes to life. In fact, cooking is a routine activity where you can practise mindfulness and integrate meditation. According to Buddhism, an ordinary person can practise mindfulness in everyday activities like cooking, cleaning, eating, and doing dishes, which are powerful activities where you are aware of the present moment and completely engrossed in it, instead of doing some extraordinary activities or sitting hours on meditation.

9.Mindful Eating: Practicing mindful eating can be a powerful way to develop a healthy relationship with food. When you eat, focus completely on the activity, staying in the present moment without distractions from your phone, TV, or anything else. Chew slowly and thoroughly before swallowing to enhance the digestion process. By fully engaging with your meal, you can enjoy your food more, appreciate what you’re eating, and better understand your choices. This practice allows you to tune into your body’s natural hunger and fullness signals. Initially, it may be challenging since many of us are accustomed to mindless eating. However, over time, this approach can become a habit that contributes to your overall well-being.

10.Improving your relationship with food is an ongoing process and is essential for overall health and well-being. First and foremost, it is important to value yourself as an individual. Learn to practice self-compassion, respect your uniqueness, and separate your eating habits and choices from your self-worth. Here are some small steps and changes you can make to enhance your relationship with food:

• Listening to your body, identifying your natural physical hunger cues rather than emotional hunger.

• Avoid labelling food as “bad” or “good”. Instead, focus on eating in moderation and respecting your food preferences and choices. All food can fit in a healthy lifestyle if eaten in moderation and with routine physical activity.

• Avoid impulsive eating behaviour and focus on intuitive eating.

• Stop watching the social media food trends and diets, as well as the weighing scale.

• Focus on mindful eating and practice mindfulness.

• Never relate food to a stress buster or use food as a reward or punishment.

• Though food is a source of nourishment to our body, but it gives us moments of pleasure too, through our eating experience. So, food choices should be always our own and not looking at another’s plate.